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TMI Rants Making A Big Deal And Perpetuating Bad PMS Stereotypes

I don't like writing or talking about this sort of stuff in mixed company, but when people repost viral statuses about it on FB, and these statuses are not just TMI, but full of rotten stereotypes and myths about gender and behaviours, I can't keep quiet about it.

On Feb. 6, 2007, Wendi Arrons wrote a ranting letter on a website about Always pads and P&G's slogan for their product "Have a happy period." It went viral, and as with so many chain letters, gathered false info during circulation.

Ms. Arrons didn't actually write to PNG, nor is there a James Thatcher. Women in the company green lighted the "Have a happy period" campaign." So you see, P&G's line of feminine products is not being peddled to the public by some exclusive men's club telling women what to wear and how to feel.

It was still winging around the net via Facebook status in 2013.

on October 8, 2012, at 1:30pm Richard Neill posted this ridiculous rant on the Bodyform FB page via mobile.

It went viral, and was reposted on this user's FB.

Considering that and the infernally irritating PMS stereotyping that keeps being perpetuated, you know what this means.

Let's mangle these stinking piles of drivel that are so awful they defy description! Usual indications of who is saying what, with Wendi being the source of the original first meme.

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🙍‍♀️Meme2: ACTUAL LETTER TO PROCTOR AND GAMBLE

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: No it isn't. It's a rant posted on a site in the section where people blow off steam or write anything as if they were writing actual letters to them, but not really. It's therapy more than anything else for them, and apparently others love to read this stuff.

🙍‍♀️Memes2&🧘3: This is

🙍‍♀️Meme2: a

🧘Meme3: an "actual letter"

🙍‍♀️Meme2: letter

🧘Meme3: from an Austin, Texas woman

🙍‍♀️Meme2: written

🧘Meme3: sent

🙍‍♀️Memes2&🧘3: to

🙍‍♀️Meme2: one of the top executives at

🙍‍♀️Memes2&🧘3: Proctor and Gamble.

🧘Meme3: regarding one of their feminine products.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: oh, right, gotta make dang sure this is supposedly some head honcho taking the brunt of some wild raging female monthly hormone heck…….. *Rolling eyes* Not true. Also not cool.

Look, let's get this straight right now.

It is not accurate or cool to give a high-five to some girl's supposedly raging hormone imbalance that supposedly causes her to go loco, any more than it is okay to excuse men for the same reason. Nor is it accurate or cool to vilify either gender based on this stupid bad stereotypical crap! Stop using PMS as an excuse to go nuts. Stop blaming everything bad on men's testosterone and praising/excusing bad things women do on their freaking period!

Yeah, if you're looking for me to go "Rah rah sistas! We won against dat guys again!" that isn't happening.

🙍‍♀️Meme2: Means a bit more to the gals than the guys.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: *Scowling* More manipulative stereotypical sexist crap! This line is so obviously designed to get us women all in some kind of pity-party uproar "Waaaaaah! Da men don't care 'bout our problems! So look at this girl go! She gots guts writ in' to that bigwig at P&G who is of course a man! Da glass ceiling lives on!" Bull!

🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: AN OPEN LETTER TO MR. JAMES THATCHER, BRAND MANAGER, PROCTER & GAMBLE.

🧘Meme3: She really gets rolling after the first paragraph.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Yeah, rolling down the same dumb path as everyone else, making women out to be horrible loose cannons every time they get periods. Please! Give me a break! This is nothing to do a big "You go girl!" over.

🧘Meme3: This was PC Magazine's 2009 Editors' Choice award-winner for the best letter sent via e-mail.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: B…S…B…S…B…S… Bollox bollox balderdash, utter piffling rubbish!

PC Mag is a magazine about computers, and the editors' choice awards are about tech stuff, not who sent the best emails.

More to the point, this letter didn't even start out as an email, it was a web post, and somehow I doubt its writer decided to just send a rant about maxi pads to a computer magazine to see if she'd get a big fat award for telling some fictional P&G exec that he was stupid and should basically take his pads and go to Hades.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Dear Mr. Thatcher,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Dear Ms. Aarons,

Your Mr. Thatcher doesn't exist...

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: I have been a loyal user of your Always maxi pads for over 20 years, and I appreciate many of their features. Why, without the LeakGuard Core

🙎‍♀️Wendi: ™

🙍‍♀️Meme2: TM

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: or Dri-Weave

🙎‍♀️Wendi: ™

🙍‍♀️Meme2: TM

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: absorbency, I’d probably never go horseback riding or salsa dancing, and I’d certainly steer clear of running up and down the beach in tight, white shorts.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: How fascinating to know you like horseback riding and salsa dancing. but your life isn't one big long period. There are lots of other days you don't have periods when you can dance, horseback ride and run on the beach………. Duh!

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: But my favorite feature has to be your revolutionary Flexi-Wings. Kudos on being the only company smart enough to realize how crucial it is that maxi pads be aerodynamic. I can’t tell you how safe and secure I feel each month knowing there’s a little F-16 in my pants.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf:That is as good as it gets. It's all downhill from here. Way down...

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Have you ever had a menstrual period, Mr. Thatcher?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Good gosh, nothing quite like trying to make the other person look stupid and blowing yourself right out of the water in the process! Men don't get periods, mate, that's too weird even for fictional men. You try to be super condescending and only end up looking like you know ziltch about human biology.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Ever suffered from “the curse”?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: It's not a curse, it's an inconvenience. There's a lot worse things people suffer than periods.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: I’m guessing you haven’t.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Duh! He hasn't suffered anything because he doesn't exist.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Well, my “time of the month” is starting right now.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: So everybody knows you had a period on Feb. 6, 2007. Good going, TMI!

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: As I type, I can already feel hormonal forces violently surging through my body. Just a few minutes from now, my body will adjust and I’ll be transformed into what my husband likes to call “an inbred hillbilly with knife skills.” Isn’t the human body amazing?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Better question: Isn't this absolutely horrible, stereotypical, not to mention ridiculous crap? Another two people who really need to stop playing it up. and I can't tell you how sick and tired I am of seeing the "inbred hillbilly" thing to describe people in the throes of some bad behaviour or other. If you really get the urge to become a knife fiend and want to do big destruction, and carve yourself or anyone else up, there's a heck of a lot wrong with you that goes way beyond monthlies.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: As brand manager in the feminine-hygiene division, you’ve no doubt seen quite a bit of research on what exactly happens during your customers’ monthly visits from Aunt Flo.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Oh, sure, since James Thatcher, brand manager of feminine hygiene products at P&G doesn't exist.

And this 'Aunt Flo' stuff, oh please people! It's just part of being a human female from puberty to menopause. It's not even an illness. We don't give a cold a silly personal name when we come down with it. "I feel rotten today because I didn't get much sleep from coughing and stuffy nose, Herbert kept me up all night." We say "I caught a cold. It kept me up all night, coughing, stuffy nose, the whole bit." We don't give names to every nick and scratch, every stub of the toe or bump on the head. "I got Dorcas here on my toe when I stubbed it yesterday."

The first time I ever heard of someone naming their period was some schoolmate or other telling about how 'Charlie' was the code name she used for that especially around boys. Well, there's no need to even talk about it around the boys at all, and "I missed swimming last week when Charlie came to visit me" is just lame as all heck. "I missed swimming because I wasn't feeling well." would've done the trick nicely. And your period is not a boy named Charlie since it involves being female. You're a girl, so you bleed girl blood.

But this 'aunt Flo' is crude as well, being a pun on 'flow. Good gosh, that's gross. Your period it is not your aunt. It's just a condition.

Research? What research? The company is only selling products to stop you from bleeding all over yourself and creation during that time, not painkillers for the cramps. You take midil for that, and Since Midol is supposed to relieve the other PMS symptoms, that's what you take for them as well. Duh! Simple! Research on pain management is not needed for making maxi pads.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Therefore, you must know about the bloating, puffiness, and cramping we endure, and about our intense mood swings, crying jags, and out-of-control behavior.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Argh! Look, it's nowhere near as bad as all that! Take midol for the cramping and bloating. It's a multi-symptom drug, so there's likely a formula with a mild tranquilizer. Even without that, using monthlies as a crutch to go bananas every month is lame, inexcusable, and promoting that stereotype does a terrible disservice to women as well as men everywhere. It's not a big haw-haw, nor is it an excuse any more… When both genders are at their worst when this subject comes up, we get men laughing at and dismissing women's emotions as hormones, and women excusing unreasonable behaviour as hormones. So on the one hand, women can get excused for behaviour they shouldn't get away with, and on the other, they can simply get dismissed, not taken seriously. On the other end, men get vilified because feminism considers testosterone bad bad bad while women hormones are hailed as good good good. What rot!

Crying jags? Really? I had those when going through puberty, and then there is an excuse. But once you get past that and your body has settled into its adult cycle, you need to look for other reasons you might be crying. Maybe you're depressed. Or maybe you were just having a bad day. Maybe you suffered some kind of trauma or loss and you're dealing with the emotions from that. Even the death of a pet has made me have the odd crying spell weeks after the event. A very bad dream can put me out of sorts for a day. Hearing about especially heinous acts, seeing footage of for real people suffering horribly, has put me in an alarming state of distress where I get really bad crying jags, I've even gotten physiologically sick from lack of sleep over things like that which stressed me out to such an extent. But other than those thankfully very infrequent situations, I rarely cry, and when I do, it is most definitely not brought on by PMS. I shed more tears laughing than anything else.

What I'm saying is, stop blaming periods for every negative emotion and giving men the okay to dismiss everything we feel as being merely hormone-driven. Get a heating pad, take a Midol, drink a lot of plain water to help your system flush out to help with the bloating, whatever, just don't sit there, feeling sorry for yourself, threatening to go off half-cocked, ranting about pads, do something!

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: You surely realize it’s a tough time for most women.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Tough? Really? A job interview is tough. Having to tell your friends or family some bad news is tough. Getting a bad grade on a college course is tough. Getting laid off is tough. Family crises and deaths are extremely tough. Menstruation can't even hold a candle next to any of these. So don't give me this dreck about us having it so much tougher in life just because we're women and we get a biological nuisance condition that lasts only a few days once a month.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: In fact, only last week,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: It's been a long time since the week prior to Feb. 6, 2007.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: my friend Jennifer fought the violent urge to shove her boyfriend’s testicles into a George Foreman Grill just because he told her he thought Grey’s Anatomy was written by drunken chimps.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: I agree with your friend's husband. So your friend is a crazed fangirl of a lousy show. That's nothing out of the ordinary for an obsessed fangirl. Have you ever seen Twi-hards, bronies, otaku (crazed anime fanatics)? They are like that constantly. Their warped and violent expressions of idiocy are definitely hormone-driven, but not the result of menstruation. Even they don't have an excuse. They choose to act that way. It is their decision to go nuts over some fictional character crush. Peer pressure among their fellow fangirls has a lot to do with it too.

And it isn't just girls. I have the distinct feeling this brony is a fanboy, and look how out of control he is.

And Slender Man fans who actually committed violent crimes to please their fictitious idol are not ruled by menstruation. It is even possible the twelve-year-olds and the 13 year old who tried to kill a friend and a mother may or may not have started having periods yet at the time.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Crazy!

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Like a fox.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: The point is, sir,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: The point is you are trying so hard to keep the bad stereotype going that says men don't care and that the ones selling us our pads must be men who don't really care or get it and are just in it to make money off our 'suffering' while telling us what to wear and how to feel, and sadly too many women just gladly go along with that because they love stuff that says "rah rah sistas! us against da men what do us wrongly, ALWAYS!"

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: you of all people must realize that America is just crawling with homicidal maniacs in 🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf pants.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Bull Idiotics. I honestly don't understand how any self-respecting woman could write something so denigrating to herself and women on the whole, unless she's writing out a fictional story with a stinker who says this kind of trash.

It just isn't true.

And I prefer to use the terms 'peddle pushers' or 'flood pants' to describe this particular clothing item, but no big deal, after all, there are jeans too.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Which brings me to the reason for my letter.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: There always seems to be some reason, even for the unreasonable. It's called an excuse.

And it doesn't wash.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Last month,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Not any more. January 6, 2007 was years ago.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: while in the throes of cramping so painful I wanted to reach inside my body and yank out my uterus,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: So why in heck didn't you take something for it and/or lie down with a heating pad?

I've had terrible cramps but never wanted to yank out my uterus, that would make things much much worse! I've had other pain too, that made me writhe and want to crawl out of my skin, the glaucoma attack when I was 4 has to be about the worst! Unfortunately, nobody goes through life without pain at some time.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: I opened an Always maxi pad, and there, printed on the adhesive backing, were these words: “Have a Happy Period.”

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: And you absolutely went ballistic over that… *Rolling eyes* Oh, please, shut up!

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Are you f--king kidding me?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Ahem! *Scowls at the tossing of the f-bomb* Would you rather it said "Have a hellish period"? Well, would you?

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: What I mean is, does any part of your tiny middle-manager brain really think happiness—actual smiling, laughing happiness—is possible during a menstrual period?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Oh, stop whinging. It's not that bad, it really isn't.

Yes, it is possible to be smiling and laughing during a period. I've done that lots and lots of times! Including playing with my nieces when we were all younger, on a rented trampoline in the backyard no less, and then I'd have to cut out of the activity for a few minutes to take care of my hygiene.

I also remember my 16th birthday morning started off with a cramp, and I was upset because it kept me from interacting with my friends. It had been a slumber party. Turned out I just needed about an hour of rest with the heating pad, and then the party resumed. In the meantime, everyone else just sat around, chatted and ate. When I was feeling better, I came out and joined right in.

Look, forget about the cramping for a moment because that's not what the pads are for! Even without the cramping bloating, and your wildly exaggerated descriptions of moodswings, would you be happy about having no pads or tampons to keep you from bleeding on everything and embarrassing yourself?

Or would you rather try an experiment called "free bleeding" which is a disgusting 4chan hoax story?

Well - I sure as heck wouldn't.

So yes, I am generally happy, even during my period unless something else in life, goes wrong at that time.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Did anything mentioned above sound the least bit pleasurable? Well, did it, James?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: I'm pretty sure the nonexistent James doesn't feel your pain.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: FYI, unless you’re some kind of sick S&M freak girl, there will never be anything “happy” about a day in which you have to jack yourself up on Motrin and Kahlúa and lock yourself in your house

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Might I suggest you lay off the Kahlúa, It's stupid to mix booze with meds. Motrin can give you abdominal cramps and bloating besides.

If you're on painkillers and still wanting to yank your body parts out, you're in need of some kind of stronger treatment for unusually severe PMS that absolutely no pad or advertising slogan is going to do a thing to help you with.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: just so you don’t march down to the local Walgreens armed with a hunting rifle and a sketchy plan to end your life in a blaze of glory.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: If you aren't exaggerating, This isn't your garden variety PMS, this is PMDD PMS that is so severe that it is actually recognized as a disorder, and no laughing matter. If you already have anxiety, depression or some other emotional disorder, those may be factors in why your PMS is so severe. Somehow I don't think Motrin and kahlua are the best treatment for it. And it's also no excuse to go bonkers.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: For the love of God,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: *Scowl* Blaspheming. Not cool.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: pull your head out, man.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: *Stern expression* That's enough! There's no excuse for this very much implied man-hating vulgarity. It's just a stupid little slogan on a pad pack. Get over it!

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: If you just have to slap a moronic message on a maxi pad, wouldn’t it make more sense to say something that’s actually pertinent, like “Put Down the Hammer” or “Vehicular Manslaughter Is Wrong”?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: *raised eyebrows, disgusted scowl* oh, for the love of… - You actually - … - Oh my gosh, you - are unbelievable! Don't you have any self-respect? Do you really think it's okay to demean your own gender with this particularly patronizing promotion of a really bad PMS stereotype? Do you really think it's cool to use PMS as an excuse to go on some rampage? *Facepalm* Shut up!

And how badly would you have flipped out if some feminine hygiene product did put your idea of pertinence on their packaging?

I'll bet you'd assume a man was making fun of us for having any PMS symptoms at all. I would certainly be offended by it, regardless of which gender came up with the idea.

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Or are you just picking on us?

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: No, you are doing a good enough job of that all on your own. You're picking on men and representing women as horribly angry loose cannons. You're doing both genders a terrible disservice. Great going! *Scowl*

Picking on us is what I'd assume if it was your idea of a good slogan put on their ads and packs instead…

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: Sir,

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: who doesn't exist… Would you have even written this stinking rant if you had known women had got the happy period thing going?

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🙍‍♀️🧘Memes: please inform your accounting department that, effective immediately, there will be an $8 drop in monthly profits, for I have chosen to take my maxi-pad business elsewhere. And though I will certainly miss your Flexi-Wings, I will not for one minute miss your brand of condescending bullshit. And that’s a promise I will keep. Always.

🙎‍♀️Wendi: Best,

🙎‍♀️Wendi&🧘Meme3: 🙎‍♀️Wendi Aarons

Austin, TX

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Well, considering all the other customers P&G has for various products, I'm sure your silly little boycott will totally force them to take Always pads right off the market…

Have a happy life.

Or at least, for the love of the rest of the human race, please, please, please, give it a good hard try.

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🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: Hi , as a man I must ask why you have lied to us for all these years .

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Considering you are a man and this is a company selling period pads, I am compelled to ask, - what are you doing here?

I don't see where you should feel lied to or cheated at all. You don't use the pads, do you? I mean, you could try if you have a problem with dribbling in your pants, or you might use them to try diapering a pet for all I know.

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: As a child I watched your advertisements with interest as to how at this wonderful time of the month that the female gets to enjoy so many things

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Eeeeeurgh. creepers!

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: ,I felt a little jealous.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Huh? If you wanted one so badly, you could've improvised; just get a nice quantity of toilet paper, fold it so it looked similar to a pad as possible, slipped that into your undies and knock yourself out with enjoyment.

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: I mean bike riding , rollercoasters, dancing, parachuting, why couldn't I get to enjoy this time of joy and 'blue water' and wings !!

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Huh? dude, nobody ever said you couldn't enjoy all that stuff just because you weren't wearing a pad. You've been bike riding, on roller coasters and swimming before, haven't you? Been in a plane? There's your wings. Blue water? Try a boat. Or you could buy some of those kids' soap crayon thingies that color the water you're in, buy them in blue, take a bath with them, and there you have it, blue water.

Obviously the message the ads were trying to convey, being that wearing a pad won't stop women from going on roller coasters. Swimming, though, well, ewww, I have to disagree with that one. The message of the ad just says that a woman's period shouldn't prevent her from experiencing the usual enjoyments of life that you take for granted.

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: Dam my penis!!

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Whoa there, dude! aUm - are you sure you want to try that? It could be mightily uncomfortable for you, even kill you. Yeah, it's 'damn'.

Oyoyoy!

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: Then I got a girlfriend, was so happy and couldn't wait for this joyous adventurous time of the month to happen

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Yeah right. Pardon me for not believing this load. You could've gone on roller coasters and swimming any old time, with or without a girlfriend. I can see where this is going and am not impressed.

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: .....you lied !! There was no joy , no extreme sports , no blue water spilling over wings and no rocking soundtrack oh no no no.

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: *Sigh* Now you're going to drone on and on, perpetuating a stupid old stereotype about what girls are like when they get their period. *Rolling eyes* Both genders are guilty of this crap and it's annoying to the extreme!

🙍‍♂️Richard Neill: Instead I had to fight against every male urge I had to resist screaming wooaaahhhhh bodddyyyyyyfooorrrmmm bodyformed for youuuuuuu as my lady changed from the loving , gentle, normal skin coloured lady to the little girl from the exorcist with added venom and extra 360 degree head spin. Thanks for setting me up for a fall bodyform , you crafty bugger

🧝‍♀️Ocean Elf: Gah! Sometimes I hate being right. and I usually am when I mangle virals that contain pinheaded gender stereotypes..

Unlike your fictitious card-board cut-out Jeckle and Monthly Hyde girlfriend, some of us women, I might even speculate and say most of us don't turn into monsters during monthly pad time.

And it's not just guys continuing to feed this stereotype, there are women who are just as bad for it.

The following memes mention or make a big thing of it.

257 Things A Girl Wished A Guy Knew

The "Good To Be A Woman" meme

Give Up Your Life For Me And Just Say Sorry

Tips For Guys

TMI Body Form And Happy Period Rant Memes

I call rubbish.

Yes, period time is icky, yes, it can get a bit uncomfortable, yes, it gets painful when there's cramping involved, and yes, sometimes mood can be somewhat effected as can state of tiredness etc. But contrary to men's bad jokes and women's constant whiny excuse-making and playing up the whole exaggerated moody thing, we for the most part don't turn from Ms. Jeckle to Ms. Hyde every month. We are not so governed by PMS to such an extent. It is not some evil force that makes us go insane for a few days each month any more than testosterone does for you, and we need to stop playing it up and continuing to perpetuate this bad stereotype.

Seriously, any bloating brought on by monthlies goes away soon enough, so really isn't even worth complaining about. If it doesn't go away, then there's something else causing it that is probably totally unrelated to periods. Other than some bloating, I'll sometimes get the odd zit during PMS. Again, no big deal. It isn't permanent. As for moods, the most I ever experience is maybe a little jumpiness for a day, tops. That's it. Cramps, well, they were far worse when I was younger, especially when I first started getting them. I remember waking up my parents with my groans and none of us realizing at first what was going on, only to figure it out after a few more times. And they grew much less severe over time. If they come on, I can take about an hour's time out, get a heating pad and lie down. The heat relaxes me enough to make me doze off, and then the cramp goes away. The after-effect is I'm quite hungry. Easy enough problem to solve. I am very fortunate they rarely happen when I'm out somewhere and unable to find a place to rest. But it is mightily uncomfortable when one does happen when out somewhere. I just try my very best to grin and bear it and move as little as possible until it goes away. The people around me aren't causing it, and I feel rather weak during cramping, so why would I even be tempted to go postal on anyone?

I would rather get some mild form of these to warn me before the blood comes. So yes, PMS can actually be a positive.

There. Awkward as this was to write out, it's a refute of the raging crazy PMS woman stereotype.

The people around me aren't causing the condition, and better still, they don't even know when I'm having PMS/periods, so, let's keep it that way. It's bad enough that I had to debunk a notorious stereotype by giving a real account.

I can hardly believe Wendi actually wrote she was having her period while writing her rant. Seriously, does the world need to know? Don't people have a sense of wanting to keep things to themselves any more?

oh, suck it up everyone! A period is only a very small aspect of being female. For goodness sake, get out of the dark ages and into the present time. Having periods is not something to mock and dismiss as nothing, or to use as a crutch, or to be blamed every time a woman shows any sort of negative emotion.

We women have our off days same as men, with neither hormones nor time of the month having anything to do with it, and I wish both genders would quit always playing up the worst stereotypes of women during their time of the month.

Over - and - out!

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